"Newbie Nearly Nuked" got fired after just 4 weeks for minor offenses like talking fast. Mel advises it's a communication breakdown. The manager should've given clearer feedback sooner. But, Newbie Nearly Nuked might've rubbed colleagues wrong. Mel suggests Newbie work on "reading the room" - picking up on non-verbal cues and adjusting communication style. It's a tough lesson, but a chance to develop communication skills for future success.
Dear Mel,
Four weeks into my new dream job, I get called into the boss's office – heart pounding, palms sweating, convinced I'd nailed it. Turns out, I nailed something alright – the eject button. Apparently, my "enthusiastic efficiency" (read: talking speed) and a joke about stale bagels (who knew?) landed me on the "do not include in next team photo" list. Stumped is an understatement, Mel. These complaints feel like a recipe for world's tiniest violin – asking questions, wanting to be included, even suggesting a snack break might be nice...am I in the wrong workplace sitcom? Is this normal, or am I the office equivalent of a rogue sock in the dryer?
Sincerely,
Newbie Nearly Nuked
P.S. Sending love (and maybe a box of those bagels) to your awesome team!
Dear Newbie Nearly Nuked,
Let's hold on a beat here, Newbie. While your enthusiasm is admirable, it's important to acknowledge there might be some room for improvement on your "read the room" skills.
Sure, some of the complaints sound minor – asking questions is good! But consider the delivery. Were you interrupting or talking over others? The bagel joke might have been harmless in your mind, but humor is subjective. Did you pick up on any non-verbal cues of discomfort?
Here's the thing: Communication is a two-way street. Your boss should have addressed concerns earlier, but maybe your approach wasn't always ideal either.
Now, don't get discouraged! This isn't a dead end, but a learning experience. Moving forward, try these tips:
Slow Down & Read the Room: Take a breath before speaking. Are people engaged, or are you accidentally steamrolling the conversation?
Consider Non-Verbal Cues: Body language and facial expressions tell a story. Pay attention to see if your enthusiasm is landing or coming across as intense.
Open Communication is Key: If unsure, don't be afraid to ask a trusted colleague, "Hey, did my joke land okay?" A little self-awareness goes a long way.
This experience, though tough, can be a valuable asset. Every workplace has its culture, and honing your ability to navigate it will benefit you in the long run. Remember, Newbie Nearly Nuked, effective communication is about both clarity and understanding your audience. Keep your enthusiasm, but temper it with a dash of social awareness, and you'll be unstoppable!
Best,
Mel